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What Infertile People Find Scary About Adoption
For many visitors to this site, adoption is something that they may never have considered before being confronted with infertility. Getting to the point of considering adoption is typically not something that comes quickly or easily; rather, it is a bend in the road that must be journeyed to by people seeking to build their families.
Understandably, thinking about adoption can be scary. Fortunately, there are a lot of others who experience very similar fears and are willing to discuss it in an effort to both ease their own tension and to educate themselves on the many facets of adopting children.
What are some of those common fears when a person with infertility considers adoption?
The Birthmother May
Change Her Mind
This probably tops the list for most anyone first thinking about adoption, and particularly for those who want to adopt an infant. How realistic is this worry?
"Birthmother" is the correct term used to refer to those who physically bear children and then release those children to adoption. (It is a more polite and accurate term to use than "natural" or "real" mother.) A fact that many prospective adoptive parents fail to realize is that birth fathers, too, have rights in regard to the relinquishment of their children.
Two concepts to be aware of here: consent and revocation.
According to the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse, 46 states and the District of Columbia specify exactly when a legal consent to relinquish may be made. ("Relinguishment," rather than "giving up," is the more polite term used in regards to a birth parent's decision to place their child for adoption.) In virtually all states, fathers are allowed to give consent before or after the child's birth, while mothers are allowed to do so only after the birth. The majority of states require a specified amount of time pass before the mother can legally consent, a waiting period of anywhere from a few hours to two weeks.
Revocation, or changing one's mind about relinquishing a child, is not allowed at any time in five States and the District of Columbia. Twenty-three States allow it only in circumstances with evidence of coercion or fraud. Other states are more lenient about the reasons and have specific time periods, ranging from three to 21 days post-consent, and in some, mutual consent of the adopting family or a court is required.
The most important thing to know is that each State's statutes are different, so it is crucial to be aware of the laws in your own State and that of the birth parents.
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